Focus on quality and the quantity will take care of itself, says Dr Joy Davidson, a sex therapist and author of Fearless Sex. One way is to add quickies to the equation – while redefining “quickie” in a way that works for both of you. Think of it more as an unplanned event rather than a brief one. Try a new environment where daring and spontaneity are part of the act – in your office, in the garage before you leave for dinner, under that tiny airline blanket in 35A and 35B. If more places are available, more sex will be, too. “If it’s exciting, she won’t need as much time to be aroused,” says Dr Joel Block, a sex therapist and author of The Art of the Quickie. “Quickies that work will energise any sexual relationship. You’ll have captured her imagination.”
