Kama positions to try

1. THE DOWNWARD DOG
The purpose
Good for deeper thrusts.

How it works
She's facedown on the bed, hips raised.

The benefit
This position creates a snug fit, but don't be a battering ram. "Move your hips from side to side, too," says sex therapist Dr Diana Wiley.


2. THE FACE-OFF
The purpose
Makes height differences disappear.

How it works
You sit on a chair, she faces you on your lap.

The benefit
Greater flexibility. "She can easily control the angle and depth of entry," says Wiley, and you can learn what sort of rhythm she likes.


3. THE PRETZEL
The purpose
Blends the doggy and missionary styles.

How it works
She lies on her left side. You kneel between her legs, curling her right leg around your right side and straddling her left leg.

The benefit
Deep penetration with face-to-face contact.


4. THE SHOULDER HOLDER
The purpose
Targets her G-spot, makes you feel bigger.

How it works
She rests both legs on one of your shoulders.

The benefit
"Any position in which a woman raises her legs narrows the vagina," says Rebecca Rosenblat, author of Seducing Your Man.


5. THE COWGIRL'S HELPER
The purpose
Puts her in control. You can lend a hand.

How it works
She squats on top, raising and lowering herself with her thighs. You support her by holding her hips and rising to meet each thrust.

The benefit
She'll appreciate your ceding the sexual remote.

Make yourself irresistible

Make yourself irresistible to women with these simple 8 steps.

1. Plan that trip
Think big: hiking in Bolivia, wreck diving off Fiji, kayaking Norway's fjords. A man who's about to go on - or is just back from - a ballsy adventure emits an irresistible glow.

2. Get an expensive haircut
Go to an upscale hair salon and ask for the owner or head stylist. Don't let a recent beauty-school grad touch those locks.

3. Browse organic markets
Healthy, happy, successful single women channel unused sexual energy into a deep hatred of pesticides.

4. Become a regular at someplace plush
Find a hip, bustling bar or restaurant in your hood and go there once a week - with friends, colleagues or alone. Tip well. After a month, you'll have a rapport with the staff that could, at best, lead to introductions and invitations. At the very least it will impress a date when you finally take one there.

5. Throw a bash
Or pay talented people to throw one for you. Hire a caterer, a bartender and a DJ and invite everyone you know. It's expensive, but the exposure is worth it.

6. Renovate a room
Find women in the world of interior decorating. From looking for furniture to picking out paint to browsing light fixtures, you'll be surrounded by single ladies. To break the ice, simply ask her opinion.

7. Read Gabriel Garcia Marquez novels in public
Women figure if you understand Marquez, you can't possibly be bad in bed. Now prove them right.

8. Donate your time or money
Find a glitzy non-profit - something involving art, music or the theatre. It'll add events to your social calendar, clout to your character and valid opportunities to meet professional dancers.

Younger love

Couples who have sex at least three times a week appear an average of 10 years younger than those who tumble twice a week or less.

Undressing while sitting or lying

It’s a dilemma: how do you get from clothed to naked when you’re sitting or lying down without giving an impromptu contortionist’s performance? No matter what anyone says, having sex with your jeans stuck around your ankles is less than dignified.

The solution: both of you get up and undress each other. Aim for a blend of speed and elegance in your movements. You don’t want to grind the proceedings to a halt by taking five minutes to neatly fold all your clothes before hopping into bed, but neither do you want to anger her by ripping her R900 Diesel T-shirt in your haste to get to those glorious breasts (even if it looks torn already). If you really don’t want to stand up to disrobe, rather lie down fl at and wriggle out of your clothes. You can’t take off a pair of jeans while sitting.

The most important thing to remember is: don’t pretend you don’t want to undress her. You’re not 16 any more, and neither is she (we hope). Pretending to undress her by accident is just plain embarrassing. Rather celebrate the act of getting naked.

Fabulous foreplay

Treating your woman right will not only warm her up for the main course, but you’ll save yourself half an hour of epic thrusting.

Not only will she return the favour with interest, but you’ll also raise her expectations, making your record tough to beat. Treating your woman right will not only warm her up for the main course, but you’ll save yourself half an hour of epic thrusting.

1. Tell her how hot she is
If you want to turbo-charge your foreplay, imagine yourself as a seductive Hollywood hunk. Lean across the table and gently cup her cheeks. Look into her eyes and say: “God, I want you.” That’s it, three simple words. Well, four actually. Keep the “God” part in for killer effect.

2. Nuzzle up
Mouth action is where you’ll get the most bang for your buck. Kisses or even a little gentle nibbling anywhere else on her body can register high on the sexual Richter scale.

3. Get ready for the rubdown
Tell her you want to touch every inch of her body. Fresh out of massage oil? Don’t panic, olive or sesame oil will do just as well. Start at her toes and move up. Keep it slow, there’s no need to rush.

4. Head south with alacrity
If your goal is to bring her to multiple orgasms, your best bet is to bring her to climax orally before you have intercourse.

5. Keep going
When you think you’ve paid your dues, add five minutes. Think of foreplay as starting up a car in winter: if you let the engine run five minutes longer in the driveway, you’re less likely to stall at a busy intersection. The average guy spends too much time seeing how long he can last. Those minutes are far better spent getting her hot in the first place.