Get your timing rightYOU HAVE: Five minutes
YOUR STRATEGY: Skip the schedule
She loves quickies for the spontaneity. You love them because they're like sports highlights: no filler. Take her lead, says Tara Roth Madden, author of Romance on the Run. "It can't be just one more thing on my to-do list," she says. If you're worried she'll think you're quick on the trigger, tell her it's just a preview.
YOU HAVE: 30 minutes
YOUR STRATEGY: Pass the baton
"Spend extra time on each other's body and your intercourse will be more action-packed," says sexologist Dr Carol Queen, author of Exhibitionism for the Shy. Kiss the sensitive nooks where the body bends, such as the wrists and the backs of the knees. Nerves can predict where you're headed if you move in a straight line, so use a zigzag stroke instead.
YOU HAVE: One hour
YOUR STRATEGY: Warm up longer
Awaken your partner's erogenous zones all over her body by giving her a 20-minute massage. "This isn't a health club," Queen says. "Keep her focused on the erotic nature the massage, not the relaxing side of it." Start with her back, then ask her to roll over so you can work your way towards her breasts and clitoris.
YOU HAVE: All night
YOUR STRATEGY: Turn tricks
To last all night, separate your orgasm from ejaculation. "Eighty percent of men can do this after three months of training," says sexologist Dr Barnaby Barratt. Too New Age? Separate ejaculation from bedtime. The average post-orgasm limp period in 30-year-olds is about half an hour. While you're waiting, try some new tricks.
