5 ways to keep it going if you’ve already tied the knot
1. ADMIT TO BOREDOM
“The single biggest sexual problem in long-term relationships is boredom,” says sensual expert Jonti Seal. “People do the same, often limited, things again and again.” Before you can get to what’s exciting, you need to admit to yourself (and each other) that something is wrong.
2. PASSION HELPS
Rekindling enjoyment in bed is not only about sexual passion, but passion for life, for living, learning and growing. You can’t get this by popping a pill (or reading a magazine article) but if you’re miserable or stressed don’t be too hard on yourself if you have become crap in the sack.
3. BE SELFISH
Keep a sense of your self.“ You are responsible for your own pleasure and your own happiness, if you are married or not,” says Seal. The moment you give her this responsibility, you’re finished.
4. SHARE THE LOVE
“Communicating” isn’t only blow-job directions. It’s a conscious sharing, both mentally and emotionally. The emotional side is the sharing of feelings, which requires vulnerability. The mental side involves actively thinking about what you want, becoming aware and making it happen.
5. BUY HER STUFF
Once you have established her sexual likes and dislikes you can introduce some fun and games. “If you are uncertain about being the one to do this and how, why not take her for a Champagne lunch and suggest that you pop into an erotic store to ‘see what they have’”, says Shannon Delporte, owner of Kink, an adult boutique. Shopping together can be great foreplay.
