Investigate her home to decide if she’s right for you
1. IS SHE GOING TO BE CLINGY?
Look for pairs of anything
Two nightstands, a bedside lamp on each side of the bed, pairs of candles… “If you see pairs – and lots of them – run for the door if you don’t want a relationship,” says sexologist and author Yvonne Fulbright. “Consciously or not, she’s displaying the belief that creating balance in the bedroom invites love into your life.” Look to escape.
2. WILL SHE BE HIGH MAINTENANCE?
Look at her photos
Check out her party snaps. If she’s always front and centre, you’ve got a high-maintenance attention-seeker. “But if you see lots of photos of animals, she’s channeling a maternal instinct,” says New York psychologist Dr Gary Aumiller. Great if you have an Oedipal complex.
3. WILL SHE BE EASY TO TALK TO?
Look at her furniture
A cluttered room suggests an open book, she’ll spill her guts to you. “But a more private person will have backs of chairs facing doors, and confined traffic patterns,” says design psychologist Dr Constance Forrest. Otherwise, use wine to get her to talk.
4. IS SHE GOING TO BE CONTROLLING?
Look at her bookshelf
Are her books alphabetized by subject? By author? “A personalized Dewey Decimal system can mean neuroticism,” says Aumiller. “But general orderliness indicates someone who’s responsible.” Cluttered shelves are a sign she’s a free thinker. Or her cleaner’s away.
