Climax to the max

By working one small muscle at the gym, at your desk or while fi shing, you can increase your orgasmic power and lower the risk of impotence – without getting arrested. Get a grip with these techniques:

Kegel exercises are used to tone up and strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle (PC), which is involved in orgasm and ejaculation. How to find your pc muscle Stop and restart your urination. The muscle you’re flexing is the PC. The basic kegel exercise

1 Contract the muscle and hold for a count of 10, then relax.

2 Repeat. Aim for at least 10 sets, several times a day. With your PC muscles now firmly toned over several weeks, your favourite body part will be more powerful than a medieval battering ram. (But a lot more welcome.) If you contract the PC muscle during sex, it acts like the brakes on a car and can halt ejaculation, while still allowing you to orgasm.

Relationship tested

Arched eyebrow at one o’clock. Slightest hint of a smile. Could be random. But there’s enough eye contact to tell you it isn’t. Her friend is in the bathroom... will be back any moment. Seconds are ticking. You could be wrong. But if life and Eminem lyrics have taught you anything, it’s that you only get one shot. The first step to meeting a woman is up to you. For every important step thereafter, we’ve got you covered. Read this, and you’ll gracefully tackle every relationship challenge – the first time.

First hello
If your deodorant is working, you have about 15 seconds to prove that you’re not just another fool who wants to get in her pants. Show confidence, nonthreatening charm and a smidgen of aggression to let her know you’re decisive. If she looks at you for three beats, you’re cleared for approach. Say something short and firm, like, “Hi, nice bracelet,” suggests David Copeland, co-author of How to Talk to Women. And follow it with a question – “What’s the story behind that?” – to start her talking. After a few minutes of good conversation, ask for her number.

First date
She’s here, so she’s at least mildly interested in having sex with you. Or not totally repulsed. Same thing! Through-out the night, touch her protectively – like lightly resting your hand on her back as you guide her to the restaurant table. It connotes that you’re in charge of seeing that her body is safe. To sow anticipation, end the date sooner than you’d like with the unmistakable gesture of a mature man who’s interested: place your hand on her hip and give her a decisive on-the-lips kiss. Call her within 24 hours to tell her you had a good time and to ask her out again.

First-time sex
Taking off your clothes with a new woman is always uncharted territory. The key to great sex the first time is taking it slow. “Let her know that when you make love to a woman, you do it from head to toe,” says Nicole Beland, Men’s Health’s Girl Next Door. “Few guys know how much a woman loves to be stroked with her bra and panties still on, so don’t rush to get her naked. The feel of the fabric against her skin and your fingers on the other side of it will leave her dying for more.”

At T minus 30 seconds, take out your three-pack of Durex (a whole box is scary) and tell her you’re going to use one. After sex, hold her for at least 10 minutes, says clinical sexologist, Dr Ava Cadell, “tell her she has a great body (and mean it), and stay the night.” This shows reverence for her body and reassures her that you want sex to be part of the journey of the relationship, not the destination.


First SERIOUS talk
When she inevitably asks, “Where is the relationship going?” don’t ask her to define her views first; anything you say after that will seem like a response calculated to fit hers. Rather say, “I’ve been thinking about that, too,” advises psychologist Dr Aline Zolbrod. List specific things you like about her (her laugh, her smell, her map-reading skills...). Then say you don’t know precisely where things are going, learning to know someone is a slow process. End with the coup de grace that will always save your ass: “I do know one thing: this relationship has promise.”

Sensual massage

You want sex, but she’s too stressed? That won’t be a problem if you follow our essential (and sensual) tips on how to rub her up the right way

1. Stroking
With your forefinger or middle finger, draw long lines gently along the spine and the contours of her body, as if holding a pencil.

2. The dots
Using the forefinger, middle finger, lips or tongue, move up and down the body.

3. Jingling
Move the
pads of your fingertips along her body as though playing a keyboard

4. Tickling
Focus on the erogenous zones – the soft skin of the inner elbow, behind the knee and the inner thigh.

5. Polishing
Keeping your fingers together, polish the surface of her skin gently, using circular motions.

6. The rails
Draw lightly along the skin, following two imaginary parallel lines, with your forefinger and middle finger.

7. The feather
Either with a real feather or the tips of your fingers, brush the surface of her skin gently and intermittently.

8. Scratching
Sketch lines up and down her body with your fingernails, pressing firmly, but don’t leave more than a slight red mark on her skin.

9. The comb
Splay the fingers of one hand a centimetre or two apart and stroke her skin using downward strokes – especially across the back, stomach and legs.

1O. The spider
Let your fingers “walk” across her skin like a spider, one after the other. Oh, the anticipation!

Looks can thrill

Here’s a pick-up tip: after catching her eye, go in for her mind. Researchers found that women aren’t attracted to men who initiate eye contact and then quickly break it by looking away. An averted gaze sends the signal that you’re more interested in something (or somebody) else. Of course, there’s a fine line between a come-hither look and a creepy stare. Keep it friendly by focusing on women who are close by – you’ll be able to lock eyes and then immediately step up to start a conversation.

Limber up for love

Yoga can increase your endurance between the sheets, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Men with premature ejaculation (PE) who practised an hour of yoga a day for 12 weeks were able to triple the length of time they lasted during intercourse. In fact, they had more staying power than men who took Prozac, which is prescribed off-label to treat PE. Yoga breathing teaches men to control anxiety, while the movements strengthen their pelvic muscles.

Fertility rights and wrongs

At some point in your life, making a baby won’t sound like a crazy idea. And when that time comes, remember this refresher on keeping your swimmers strong. Turns out, much of the old wisdom has been lapped.

1. OLD
Don’t have sex until she’s most fertile.

NEW
Have sex – and masturbate – often. Australian researchers found that as sperm sit idle, they weaken.

2. OLD
Make sure she eats a healthy diet.

NEW
Cut the junk yourself. High blood sugar damages your sperm, say Irish researchers.

3. OLD
Hit the gym and you’ll strengthen your sperm.

NEW
Just don’t train to exhaustion. Doing so cuts your sperm count, according to a Spanish study.

4. OLD
Schedule bedroom romps.

NEW
Do it when you’re both in the mood. Over planning leads to sexual stress, which also hurts your count.

Turn her on tonight

1.Explore new regions
You’ve heard about her nipples and vagina? Good. Now spend some time on the back of her neck. It’s a brave new world of nerve endings, so gentle caressing and kissing are all that’s needed. The base of her spine is sensation central, as well. Or gently stroke and kiss her belly just above the pubic hairline. Sex is about discovery, not reaching a destination.

2. Ask her to lose her underwear at dinner
The naked secret you share will linger through dessert, says sociologist Dr Pepper Schwartz, author of The Great Sex Weekend.

3. Experiment with grooming
That is, trim each other’s pubic hair until it’s just right. You’re making some smooth skin, which is much more pleasing for the 12-second kisses. But it also makes for fun in the shower. It’s slow and methodical, but it also allows for some power-playing. She has the razor; she has control. And you determine, with her help, just how bare she’s willing to go.