Things that drive women wild

There are a few things that you should know about a woman

We all wish we had that special something that could lure the attractive brunette from across the bar.

Which is why we did a snap survey to find out what it is that attracts them to you. Our suggestion? If you think she’s worth the effort, take the time to find out a little more about her. You may be surprised to discover that it’s that little thing you already do which is her biggest turn on.

You may want to note that nice hands, a winning smile and a good sense of humour came out of most of the mouths of the women we asked. If you’re struggling in those three areas then here are 35 other idiosyncrasies that could sort out your love life once and for all.

1. Call me old fashioned, but chivalry is my ultimate weakness. Any man who pours my drink, opens the car door and generally follows the old school rules of being a real gentleman is going to get my attention. Leigh, 28, marketing manager

2. When he touches me secretly and no one else can see, like running his toes up the sole of my bare foot under the table. Gabriella, 24, product manager

3. When he’s just bathed and is standing there naked putting on aftershave... I want him right there. Thuli, 28, fund accountant

4. A guy who does his own grocery shopping and who can cook. Sheryl, 38, accounts manager

5. I love a man who has attitude, but it needs to be balanced. He needs to be able to tease and be teased. Lee, 25, brand manager

6. I love the strong silent type. The guy who stands on the periphery of a crowd and observes. Hannah, 30, psychologist

7. When we’re watching television and he strokes my face it drives me wild. It’s because he’s not trying to get sex that I feel so turned on. Sandra, 32, lawyer

8. A long, slow back massage and I’m as soft as putty in the sunshine. Mel, 54, financial advisor

9. Slow dancing on the dance floor, so close, that you can feel that manhood, boy oh boy… say no more! Glenda, 38, accounts manager

10. A man who is one of the guys is really appealing but then he also has to be able to dedicate his entire being to me. A man who says “for you I kill the bull” and actually means it is a definite winner. Liza, 25, graphic designer

11. A bloke in a white T-shirt and blue jeans. It’s the classic turn-on. Erin, 25, account manager

12. A guy who wears his shorts below his hip-bone. Shelley, 19, student

13. A man with contrasts in his personality. He needs to be serious when necessary but also make me roll around the floor laughing. Phillippa, 29, journalist

14. I love it when we spend quality time cooking dinner together. Those precious moments of intimacy just doing mundane things. Charmayne, 48, aromatherapist

15. A guy with huge shoulders who can literally envelope me. Louise, 28, accountant

16. A calm, gentle demeanor. Kassy, 30, sub-editor

17. Scruffy boys – the outdoorsy type who are active and down to earth. Justine, 25, online editor

18. That wink – across a bar, or crowded room – just to check that I’m okay and that he’s thinking of me. Robyn, 35, doctor

19. A guy who is slightly rugged; it’s a turn-off when a guy looks like he’s spent the last two days polishing and shining himself. Helen, 26, media planner

20. Smile lines. When he smiles and the lines around his eyes are accentuated. Angela, 30, import manager

Tune out temptation

Researchers at found that men who simply think about ways to protect their relationships are less likely to ogle hot women. In a study, men asked to develop solutions to sexual temptation were more likely to avoid images of attractive women in virtual reality than were control-group participants who thought about solving academic problems. Similarly, pondering the consequences of cheating may help a man resist temptation, says study author Dr John Lydon. So say to yourself, “If an attractive woman flirts with me, then I will do [blank] to protect my relationship.” You know, instead of your usual fantasy

Rev up her desire

Cubic inches matter. Loud car engines can activate a woman’s sexual arousal, according to British researchers. Women who listened to the revving engines of Ferraris and other high-end cars showed elevated testosterone levels, indicating sexual excitement. The throaty roar causes a response in a woman’s hypothalamus, triggering physiological arousal, says lead author David Moxon. But don’t redline a Civic – the noise of a four cylinder car lowered women’s testosterone levels.

Give a great foot massage

She will melt like butter in your hands if you know how to treat her feet. A short foot massage after a long day's work in high heels will earn you her lifelong gratitude or, at least, put her in a generous mood for the evening. Get her to lie down somewhere warm and comfortable, put on some soft music and take her feet gently in your hands.

1: Pull the upper foot gently towards you. Glide over the toes and then hold the foot with your other hand.

2: Use your thumb to massage the sole. Concentrate on the spot which gives her the most pleasure.

3: Next, tug each toe. The technique is firm yet gentle (this applies to all the other steps as well).

4: Finally, slide your fingertips along the gaps and sides of the toes, and end the session on this pleasurable note.

Sweat is sexy

A potent aphrodisiac is just a jog away. Women are sexually aroused by the scent of male sweat, according to researchers. When 48 female undergrads watched an erotic video after sniffing a control scent or androstadienone (a testosterone derivative in male sweat), the androstadienone inhalers experienced a 200 percent spike in sexual arousal. Androstadienone increased the women’s levels of cortisol, a hormone that stimulates arousal, by almost 40 percent. But watch the clock: you’ll have only about 60 minutes before her cortisol surge wears off, according to study author Dr Claire Wyart.

Recycle happiness

See a comedy on your next date. Couples who reminisce about funny experiences they've shared are more satisfied with their partners than those who recall cracking up alone, found psychologists.

A funny memory serves as an inside joke, which creates cohesiveness between two people. Need material? Couples shouldt use amusing nicknames for each other that are based on a humorous recollection. This way the mood-boosting power of the memory can be used often.

Make-up manual

Check her cosmetic choices, and discover her sexual personality

1. FIFTY LASHES
If she sports a lot of makeup, use caution. "Heavy use of mascara can often be a means of defence - the mark of a woman who feels she needs to overcompensate for a lack of self-confidence," says Frederic Letailleur, who holds a degree in psychology and is head make-up artist for Giorgio Armani. But keep an eye out for the girl with road-sweepers for eyelashes. "If she is wearing fake lashes, she's an outgoing woman who likes to have fun," explains Letailleur. "She's not afraid of using artificial means to seduce." So neither should you be. Splash out on some Champagne: invest now and she's guaranteed to pay later.

2. A BIT OF LIP
"Lets face it: men are suckers for women in red lipstick," says Letailleur. "This is a predatory woman who wants attention, but who'll also play hard to get. She will tease and will want to be teased." She wants a game? Let her have it. Banter with her, prove you're a worthy opponent and make the maneater work for her meat. It'll be a feeding frenzy. Just watch her teeth.

3. ROYAL FLUSH
Cheeks like a Japanese geisha mean you need to handle her with care. "Reddened cheeks say this lady is not happy with her complexion," says Letailleur. "So compliment her. It will boost her self- confidence and she'll lose the rouge." And the best benefit? She'll want you very close to those cheeks.

4. BARE-FACED CHEEK
"Either she knows nothing about make-up or she's denying the need for it," says Letailleur. "She's a practical person who dedicates her life to others rather than herself. She's a loyal person who, once you get her attention, will be dedicated to you all the way. If you play it sensitive, you'll get that attention." Deal done. Now you can save the leash for the girl in the red lipstick...

5. GLOSSING OVER
"Glossed lips express the youth of a woman," says Letailleur. "Contrary to Miss Red Lips, this woman does not see herself as a boring grown-up. For best results, play to her inner child." Relive the crazy things you did when you were young. A schooldisco party? Why not?