Use these tips to boost your sex life
1 ENDLESS BICKERING
Fighting over serious issues is normal, but bickering can cramp your sex life, says Dr Valerie Davi Raskin, author of Great Sex For Moms. Unless compromise is easy, “it’s often better to put minor disputes aside,” she says. “You shouldn’t talk over everything endlessly.” In our survey, the most trivial quarrels were about the house. Avoid them by playing to each other’s strengths. Then divvy up the decisions accordingly.
2 CONFLICTING SCHEDULES
Sixty-hour workweeks plus social plans can leave her too tired to tango. But pumping up the passion at the beginning of your week sets the tone for days to come. Go to the gym together on Monday or Tuesday: studies show both sexes experience a surge of libido-boosting testosterone 30 minutes after a workout. Shower then hit the bedroom. “It’ll zap stress and the sexual momentum will last through the weekend,” says Dr Michael Breus, author of Good Night.
3 LATE-NIGHT TV
Here’s a disturbing set of characteristics: Italian researchers found that having a television in your bedroom halves your sex tally, yet 64 percent of couples keep a set in the boudoir. “Getting it on is about putting the brain and body in a passionate state – TV does the opposite,” says Heidi Raykeil, author of Confessions of a Naughty Mommy. Can’t quit? Record your favourite shows to watch them on the weekend.
4 A HOUSEFUL OF KIDS
If tantrums and nappies are polluting your passion, ditch the kids (for a night). “It’s all about creating opportunity,” Raskin says. “Spontaneity is enviable, but planned sex can be great too.” Particularly if you are not getting enough. You know that couple next door? They’re probably in the same situation, so propose a kid swop. You take theirs on a Friday, they take yours on a Saturday. If the neighbours are freaks, go home when the kids aren’t: lunch time. Nearly 40 percent of women would get frisky at noon.
5 AN EXTRA SLICE OF PIE
Hoovering down a romantic dinner can backfire. Share an entrée to eat less, and spark a passion interaction, says Bunny Crumpacker, author of The Sex Life of Food. “Choosing a meal together and sharing the dish can boost your sense of cooperation,” she says. Your best bet: whip up a dish at home – 66 percent of the women surveyed said they’d be more likely to have sex after a home-cooked meal.
