How’s this for defeating a purpose: dating lots of women can hurt your search for The One. When prospects are lentiful, “at the first sign of a problem, men often move on to the next woman, instead of dealing with it,” says Dr Susan Campbell, author of Truth in Dating. Sound familiar? Make some changes...
YOU'RE SETTING A BUDGET
“If you go into a date thinking, How much money am I going to spend? You’re sabotaging yourself,” says Bill Horst, a leading professional matchmaker.
The fix
It’s fine to go on free or cheap dates. Taking money out of the equation will put the emphasis back on getting to know someone new. Try a walk on the beach.
YOU HAVE NO FEMALE FRIENDS
People often meet through mutual friends. So you need girl friends for dating back up.
The fix
If you’re not into her, kindly say you just want to be friends. If you impress her with your charm, you might meet her hot roommate.
YOU SCREEN HER CALLS
“If you stop communicating with someone for no clear reason, there’s obviously a problem,” Campbell says. Be cautious: this is often a prelude to eternal bachelorhood.
The fix
Practise dealing with difficult situations, advises Campbell. If a woman says something that turns you off, tell her why it bothered you and deal with it.
