Kama positions to try

1. THE DOWNWARD DOG
The purpose
Good for deeper thrusts.

How it works
She's facedown on the bed, hips raised.

The benefit
This position creates a snug fit, but don't be a battering ram. "Move your hips from side to side, too," says sex therapist Dr Diana Wiley.


2. THE FACE-OFF
The purpose
Makes height differences disappear.

How it works
You sit on a chair, she faces you on your lap.

The benefit
Greater flexibility. "She can easily control the angle and depth of entry," says Wiley, and you can learn what sort of rhythm she likes.


3. THE PRETZEL
The purpose
Blends the doggy and missionary styles.

How it works
She lies on her left side. You kneel between her legs, curling her right leg around your right side and straddling her left leg.

The benefit
Deep penetration with face-to-face contact.


4. THE SHOULDER HOLDER
The purpose
Targets her G-spot, makes you feel bigger.

How it works
She rests both legs on one of your shoulders.

The benefit
"Any position in which a woman raises her legs narrows the vagina," says Rebecca Rosenblat, author of Seducing Your Man.


5. THE COWGIRL'S HELPER
The purpose
Puts her in control. You can lend a hand.

How it works
She squats on top, raising and lowering herself with her thighs. You support her by holding her hips and rising to meet each thrust.

The benefit
She'll appreciate your ceding the sexual remote.

Make yourself irresistible

Make yourself irresistible to women with these simple 8 steps.

1. Plan that trip
Think big: hiking in Bolivia, wreck diving off Fiji, kayaking Norway's fjords. A man who's about to go on - or is just back from - a ballsy adventure emits an irresistible glow.

2. Get an expensive haircut
Go to an upscale hair salon and ask for the owner or head stylist. Don't let a recent beauty-school grad touch those locks.

3. Browse organic markets
Healthy, happy, successful single women channel unused sexual energy into a deep hatred of pesticides.

4. Become a regular at someplace plush
Find a hip, bustling bar or restaurant in your hood and go there once a week - with friends, colleagues or alone. Tip well. After a month, you'll have a rapport with the staff that could, at best, lead to introductions and invitations. At the very least it will impress a date when you finally take one there.

5. Throw a bash
Or pay talented people to throw one for you. Hire a caterer, a bartender and a DJ and invite everyone you know. It's expensive, but the exposure is worth it.

6. Renovate a room
Find women in the world of interior decorating. From looking for furniture to picking out paint to browsing light fixtures, you'll be surrounded by single ladies. To break the ice, simply ask her opinion.

7. Read Gabriel Garcia Marquez novels in public
Women figure if you understand Marquez, you can't possibly be bad in bed. Now prove them right.

8. Donate your time or money
Find a glitzy non-profit - something involving art, music or the theatre. It'll add events to your social calendar, clout to your character and valid opportunities to meet professional dancers.

Younger love

Couples who have sex at least three times a week appear an average of 10 years younger than those who tumble twice a week or less.

Undressing while sitting or lying

It’s a dilemma: how do you get from clothed to naked when you’re sitting or lying down without giving an impromptu contortionist’s performance? No matter what anyone says, having sex with your jeans stuck around your ankles is less than dignified.

The solution: both of you get up and undress each other. Aim for a blend of speed and elegance in your movements. You don’t want to grind the proceedings to a halt by taking five minutes to neatly fold all your clothes before hopping into bed, but neither do you want to anger her by ripping her R900 Diesel T-shirt in your haste to get to those glorious breasts (even if it looks torn already). If you really don’t want to stand up to disrobe, rather lie down fl at and wriggle out of your clothes. You can’t take off a pair of jeans while sitting.

The most important thing to remember is: don’t pretend you don’t want to undress her. You’re not 16 any more, and neither is she (we hope). Pretending to undress her by accident is just plain embarrassing. Rather celebrate the act of getting naked.

Fabulous foreplay

Treating your woman right will not only warm her up for the main course, but you’ll save yourself half an hour of epic thrusting.

Not only will she return the favour with interest, but you’ll also raise her expectations, making your record tough to beat. Treating your woman right will not only warm her up for the main course, but you’ll save yourself half an hour of epic thrusting.

1. Tell her how hot she is
If you want to turbo-charge your foreplay, imagine yourself as a seductive Hollywood hunk. Lean across the table and gently cup her cheeks. Look into her eyes and say: “God, I want you.” That’s it, three simple words. Well, four actually. Keep the “God” part in for killer effect.

2. Nuzzle up
Mouth action is where you’ll get the most bang for your buck. Kisses or even a little gentle nibbling anywhere else on her body can register high on the sexual Richter scale.

3. Get ready for the rubdown
Tell her you want to touch every inch of her body. Fresh out of massage oil? Don’t panic, olive or sesame oil will do just as well. Start at her toes and move up. Keep it slow, there’s no need to rush.

4. Head south with alacrity
If your goal is to bring her to multiple orgasms, your best bet is to bring her to climax orally before you have intercourse.

5. Keep going
When you think you’ve paid your dues, add five minutes. Think of foreplay as starting up a car in winter: if you let the engine run five minutes longer in the driveway, you’re less likely to stall at a busy intersection. The average guy spends too much time seeing how long he can last. Those minutes are far better spent getting her hot in the first place.

Climax to the max

By working one small muscle at the gym, at your desk or while fi shing, you can increase your orgasmic power and lower the risk of impotence – without getting arrested. Get a grip with these techniques:

Kegel exercises are used to tone up and strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle (PC), which is involved in orgasm and ejaculation. How to find your pc muscle Stop and restart your urination. The muscle you’re flexing is the PC. The basic kegel exercise

1 Contract the muscle and hold for a count of 10, then relax.

2 Repeat. Aim for at least 10 sets, several times a day. With your PC muscles now firmly toned over several weeks, your favourite body part will be more powerful than a medieval battering ram. (But a lot more welcome.) If you contract the PC muscle during sex, it acts like the brakes on a car and can halt ejaculation, while still allowing you to orgasm.

Relationship tested

Arched eyebrow at one o’clock. Slightest hint of a smile. Could be random. But there’s enough eye contact to tell you it isn’t. Her friend is in the bathroom... will be back any moment. Seconds are ticking. You could be wrong. But if life and Eminem lyrics have taught you anything, it’s that you only get one shot. The first step to meeting a woman is up to you. For every important step thereafter, we’ve got you covered. Read this, and you’ll gracefully tackle every relationship challenge – the first time.

First hello
If your deodorant is working, you have about 15 seconds to prove that you’re not just another fool who wants to get in her pants. Show confidence, nonthreatening charm and a smidgen of aggression to let her know you’re decisive. If she looks at you for three beats, you’re cleared for approach. Say something short and firm, like, “Hi, nice bracelet,” suggests David Copeland, co-author of How to Talk to Women. And follow it with a question – “What’s the story behind that?” – to start her talking. After a few minutes of good conversation, ask for her number.

First date
She’s here, so she’s at least mildly interested in having sex with you. Or not totally repulsed. Same thing! Through-out the night, touch her protectively – like lightly resting your hand on her back as you guide her to the restaurant table. It connotes that you’re in charge of seeing that her body is safe. To sow anticipation, end the date sooner than you’d like with the unmistakable gesture of a mature man who’s interested: place your hand on her hip and give her a decisive on-the-lips kiss. Call her within 24 hours to tell her you had a good time and to ask her out again.

First-time sex
Taking off your clothes with a new woman is always uncharted territory. The key to great sex the first time is taking it slow. “Let her know that when you make love to a woman, you do it from head to toe,” says Nicole Beland, Men’s Health’s Girl Next Door. “Few guys know how much a woman loves to be stroked with her bra and panties still on, so don’t rush to get her naked. The feel of the fabric against her skin and your fingers on the other side of it will leave her dying for more.”

At T minus 30 seconds, take out your three-pack of Durex (a whole box is scary) and tell her you’re going to use one. After sex, hold her for at least 10 minutes, says clinical sexologist, Dr Ava Cadell, “tell her she has a great body (and mean it), and stay the night.” This shows reverence for her body and reassures her that you want sex to be part of the journey of the relationship, not the destination.


First SERIOUS talk
When she inevitably asks, “Where is the relationship going?” don’t ask her to define her views first; anything you say after that will seem like a response calculated to fit hers. Rather say, “I’ve been thinking about that, too,” advises psychologist Dr Aline Zolbrod. List specific things you like about her (her laugh, her smell, her map-reading skills...). Then say you don’t know precisely where things are going, learning to know someone is a slow process. End with the coup de grace that will always save your ass: “I do know one thing: this relationship has promise.”